Meghan Markle’s father appeals to British queen over rift with daughter

Harry, 34, and Meghan are expecting their first child in the spring of 2019. (File/AP)
Updated 17 December 2018
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Meghan Markle’s father appeals to British queen over rift with daughter

  • Meghan’s father said he had not had contact with his daughter for months and repeated text messages to Meghan had gone unanswered
  • Kensington Palace did not immediately comment on the interview

LONDON: Meghan Markle’s father directly appealed to Britain’s Queen Elizabeth on Monday to intercede and end his estrangement from his daughter, the wife of Prince Harry.
Former US actress Meghan, now the Duchess of Sussex, married Harry, the queen’s grandson and sixth-in-line to the throne, in a glittering ceremony at Windsor Castle in May.
But the immediate build-up to the wedding was overshadowed by her father, Thomas, a former lighting director for US TV soaps and sitcoms, who pulled out days beforehand after undergoing heart surgery.
Meghan’s father said he had not had contact with his daughter for months and repeated text messages to Meghan had gone unanswered.
When asked what message he had for Queen Elizabeth, 92, Thomas Markle said: “I would appreciate anything she can do and I would think that she would want to resolve the family problems.”
“All families, royal or otherwise, are the same and they should all be together certainly around the holidays,” Markle added.
Markle said that Meghan, 37, had not sent him a Christmas card but that he was hopeful that they could at some time build their relationship.
“Please reach out to me,” he said of Meghan. “I love my daughter very much and she has to know that... Just send me a text.”
“All I can say is that I’m here she knows it and I’ve reached out to her and I need her to reach back to me. I love her very much,” Markle said. “This can’t continue forever.”
Harry, 34, and Meghan are expecting their first child in the spring of 2019.
“I am certainly hoping that everything goes well and that they produce a beautiful baby and I’ll get to see a little Meghan or a little Harry — that would be very nice and I look forward to that happening,” Markle said.
“I think she’ll make a great Mom.”
Markle dismissed reports that Meghan could at times be rude. She was, he said, very polite as she had been raised on Hollywood stages.
When asked if she was a social climber, her father said: “She’s always been a very controlling person and that’s part of her nature but she has never been rude.”
Kensington Palace did not immediately comment on the interview.


Japanese tidying guru sparks joy with cluttered Americans

Updated 21 January 2019
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Japanese tidying guru sparks joy with cluttered Americans

  • Kondo's book, "The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up," has earned a cult following since its publication in the United States in 2014
  • "I love mess," Kondo proclaims in her Netflix show, which sees her visit American homes to implement her trademarked "KonMari" method

WASHINGTON: After experiencing homelessness in 2011, Sarah Eby found herself constantly collecting things so she would never again feel she had nothing to call her own.
"When I moved into my apartment, it just felt empty," the mother-of-one from Arvada, Colorado told AFP. "I got everything I could to try and make it feel like I had a home."
But as Eby moved house over the years, the clutter built up. Now, inspired by the Japanese home organizing guru Marie Kondo, the 27-year-old says she has banished the chaos for good.
And she's hardly the only one.
Kondo is small in stature, but her tidying philosophy has reached stratospheric heights.
Her book, "The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up," has earned a cult following since its publication in the United States in 2014, with millions adopting her suggestions for a neater, happier existence.
But it is the 34-year-old's new Netflix show, "Tidying up with Marie Kondo" -- released on New Year's Day, when everyone is keen to reinvent themselves and motivated by their resolutions -- that has everyone talking.
"I love mess," Kondo proclaims in the show, which sees her visit American homes -- flanked by her interpreter -- to implement her trademarked "KonMari" method.
The idea is simple: gather your things one Kondo-defined category at a time and go through them one by one, keeping only those that "spark joy," and giving them a place in your home.
As for the rest, a KonMari convert thanks his or her used items and tags them for donation or the garbage pail.
At the end, most converts find they have far fewer possessions, and a happier outlook.
"I think it plays an integral role with my relationship to things," said Eby, who watched one episode of the show before diving into the book.
"I was never messy or unclean or untidy -- I just had too many things. And so the part that I connected with most would be the letting go of the things that don't bring me joy."
Almost overnight, Kondo has emerged as a cultural icon -- she is the subject of countless viral tweets and memes, and a flurry of think pieces unpacking the show in surprising, somewhat disconcerting depth.
Her method however is not without controversy: advice to donate old books has infuriated bibliophiles on social media.
But for Den Kovacs, a video games journalist and KonMari disciple, Kondo -- with her gentle, judgment-free encouragement -- is a welcome antidote to harsh reality TV, not to mention American chaos.
"People really do feel ... chaotic, they feel overwhelmed," said the 23-year-old from Livonia, Michigan.
"So when they see someone who comes in, and she's like, 'I can fix this! We got this!' ... people are like 'Yes, I need this in my life.'"
Social media users have already reported a "Kondo effect" at local thrift stores, with more goods pouring in for resale -- although a national spokesperson for Goodwill told AFP it is "too soon to tell."
And as viral trends go, KonMari-mania is one that could actually be good for people: according to a 2016 study, too much clutter can be bad news for wellbeing.
"The more clutter you have ... the less your sense of home, the less your sense of life satisfaction," explained DePaul University psychologist Joseph Ferrari, a co-author of the study.
"That's contrary to what people might think. They think that you have to have more, and people with abundance are happier people. No."
Kondo's fans are earnestly reporting the benefits of going clutter-free.
"It feels really good," says Kovacs, who explored other tidying approaches, but found KonMari to be the most effective.
"I really decluttered my mind. It felt like I had less stress, less to focus on ... I could focus on myself."
Meanwhile, for Olguyne Fernandez-Fraga, a 27-year-old nutritionist from Miami, Kondo has boosted her social life.
"Before it would be like 'Oh, can we invite so and so over?', and it was like 'No, look at the house'," Fernandez-Fraga explained.
"Whereas now, it's like yeah, they could come in the next 10 minutes if they want to."
And in the digital age, it turns out even email inboxes and social media friends can be "KonMaried."
"I just went down the (Facebook) list and asked myself, 'Does this person spark joy?'" Kovacs explained.
"As soon as you start to ask that about someone, you suddenly realize the people that add value to you," he said.
"You certainly appreciate them a lot more than you did before."