Creative Thinking: Fear is the ‘engine’

Updated 30 January 2013
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Creative Thinking: Fear is the ‘engine’

Although we usually do not realize it, fear is the spring behind most of people’s actions. Fear determines their attitudes because it conditions their minds. The way they act is its direct consequence. The majority will certainly disagree. Try to tell them that their behavior is generated by fear. “I… afraid of something? By no means! Afraid of what? I do not fear anything!” This is probably what anyone would say. Sure, sure!
But fear “is” at the root of every negative thought and behavior. Examine yourself for a moment and reflect. Are you the jealous type? If you are, you justify your jealousy by making it appear as a characteristic or consequence of love. “I care,” you say. Is it not rather the fear of losing your beloved? Or the awareness that, if you are left alone, you will feel lonely, impoverished, inadequate? Wouldn’t you feel that you cannot live on your own, that you cannot or won’t go on with no one by your side? So, isn’t it fear that makes you anxious, that pushes you to always want to be with someone, to feel that, in a way, they “belong” to you and that they will never leave you?
If, on the other hand, you are someone who attributes too great an importance to money, it means that you were brought up believing that money alone can grant a happy, comfortable life to you and to your family. Couldn’t it be that you are afraid of being unable to make your dear ones happy, and that is why you need to make up for such spiritual insufficiency with riches? Another scenario might show that, deep inside, you are afraid of poverty, of not having enough and that is why you need to earn more, to save more, to “have” more.
Another example. If you are too sure of yourself, if you tend to behave like a dictator and impose your will, you are afraid of not being respected enough by others in case you show your true nature, your doubts and weaknesses. The reason behind such feeling is the fact that you do not have enough self-confidence, that you do not trust yourself. If, instead, you are too shy and easily influenced and manipulated, it is a clear sign that you fear being neglected or ignored. This makes you take everything from others, even abuse, just to be accepted, just not to be abandoned, just to have the feeling that you “belong,” that someone cares for you.
If, starting with yourself, you carefully examine some characteristic of the human behavior, you will find out that fear is the real “engine” that creates an imaginary world in front of people’s eyes. In order to set yourself free, to be who you really are and to live as you should. i.e. more serenely, first of all you need to accept your fears with humility. Only when you are able to say, “Yes, it is true. I am afraid,” will you start to realize the deception you have created in order to grant yourself a fictitious security blanket. You shall then understand that you do not need to be jealous in order to keep love – provided that such sentiment is sincere from both sides. You do not need to wear yourself out to earn more money – once you have enough to feel “secure.” You will realize that what your dear ones want is your time, affection and availability.
Become finally aware of the lie you founded your life upon and dare to admit your weaknesses. Do not be afraid of being criticized or negatively judged by others: they, too, are scared lambs just like you! If you can find the courage to show them how (who and what) you really are, most likely they, too, will drop their “masks” and show their real faces.

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WWE stars soften up to Jeddah children to introduce anti-bullying campaign

Updated 25 April 2018
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WWE stars soften up to Jeddah children to introduce anti-bullying campaign

  • Al-Oula is a non-profit organization targeted to break the cycle of poverty
  • WWE stars sat down in front of 30 students from the institution

Jeddah: The children of Al-Oula –- a non-profit organization targeted to break the cycle of poverty –- had the most thrilling school trip as they came to see World Wrestling Entertainment (WWE) superstars Mojo Rawley and Mark Henry in King Abdullah stadium on Tuesday.
The stars sat down in front of 30 students from the institution and softened up as they shared stories from their childhood and introduced their anti-bullying campaign “Be a Star.”
The stars shared personal stories and the difficulties they have faced.
Dean Muhtadi, 31, better known by his ring name Mojo Rawley, told the children: “We are different in many ways but sometimes you have to focus on the similarities and positive aspects of others.”
Mark Henry, 46, opened up about his past: “When I was young people would call me names and were mean to me, so I decided to become the strongest person in the world.
“I won three world championships in three different world countries that had nothing to do with each other and I am very proud of myself for not letting the mean comments get to my head.”
Henry was world heavyweight champion, and is also a two-time Olympian and a gold medalist at the Pan American Games.
Later the children had the chance to talk directly with the stars. Rawley is originally Palestinian, so he spoke in Arabic with some of the children.
Henry told one of the students: “If someone is troubling you, don’t give them the satisfaction of letting the comments or actions affect you, and immediately tell your teacher or your parents or any adult, and they will help you through your problems.”
The children then took pictures and were given tickets to the WWE Royal Rumble show on Friday.
“Jeddah is a very family-friendly and a culture-loving city, so I love being here,” Henry told Arab News. “The only difference is the language. Apart from that everyone is very nice and warm.”
On the Royal Rumble, he said: “Get ready for the best entertainment you have ever seen with your own eyes.”
“For someone who comes from an Arab background, this is a historic achievement and it will be remembered for ever,” Rawley said in an interview with Arab News.
“When I first found out that we agreed to a ten-year partnership, it was the coolest thing to find out.
“I am very fortunate to be a part of this long-term partnership which will give the citizens a long time to understand and give us enough time to develop our brand here in Saudi Arabia.
“Last year the show in Riyadh was a small, non-televised show but it was one of the coolest experiences of my life, so I am very excited to perform in this grand-scale show. It’s going to be an amazing show. It will rival Wrestle Mania, which is the biggest event of the year.”
Jana Marwan, a nine-year-old student, said: “Everyone told us that the wrestlers were scary but they weren’t. In fact they were very friendly. They taught us how to look out for ourselves and I had so much fun. I am thankful to them.”