What do you think about the way you present yourself to the world? Do you believe that the image you are projecting is the best yourself? Could it be improved? If your answer is “yes”, what could be done?
Some people have the skill, the ability to instinctively know what suits them and what doesn’t. Some don’t. Yes, today we start by talking about your physical appearance (and we shall proceed from there!).
So... take a good look at yourself. Go to the mirror and observe. Is your hair in good condition? Decent haircut and grooming? What about your clothes? Are they simple but elegant or are they sloppy? Do they show that you care or do they show that your image is the last thing in your mind? You know, when you don’t take care of the way you portray yourself, you are limiting your options for success. And, of course, along with your physical appearance, you have to add attitude and, believe it or not, body language. Not only the way you dress, but also the way you present yourself and deal with the others will certainly have an impact upon the opinion people will form of you, and it will make them decide what to think about you. Now decide: Is it worthwhile to take care of your visual aspect?
Good. Now take an “inner” look at yourself. Examine the way you behave, how you treat others: the way you look at them, the words you speak to them, the expressions you “wear” while dealing with them. Who are “them”? Absolutely everybody, every single person you meet and interact with in the course of your day. Start from your family, and review how you usually interact with your spouse and with your children.
Mentally picture yourself while you address them, while you speak to them and also while you listen (or don’t listen) to them. What about other relatives? Are you always attentive toward your parents, do you visit them regularly, do you ask them if they need anything you might help them with?
Also, if you take the time to examine the way you deal with your friends, you might get another good insight about your usual behavior toward them. You might realize that sometimes you are a little abrupt with them, or you act in a way that is too matter of fact, making them feel that you are taking them for granted. As to your colleagues, you might have issues with some of them, as it often happens on the work place.
Here you need to be patient, kind and ready to offer a helping hand when needed. And, when it is the case, show them the appreciation they deserve. They will value you more. The same patient, friendly attitude should be displayed with the cashier at the supermarket, with the janitor in your office, even with the salesperson whose attitude you don’t particularly like. You will see how the others will notice the difference and treat you accordingly. Sometimes it only takes a little shift in addressing people to upturn relationships for the better. Did you ever notice the difference in your appearance between the early morning, when you haven’t combed your hair yet, and when — later — you have?
— Elsa Franco Al Ghaslan, a Saudi English instructor and published author (in Italy), is a long-time scholar of positive thinking.
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