Is it the right of the husband to absent himself for long hours from home without telling his wife his whereabouts? Equally, is it the right of the wife to ask her husband where he has been without this being considered an infringement on his rights, including personal freedom? What is the dividing line between what is right and what is wrong here?
These are the kind of questions that continue to puzzle many people, especially wives who may never be able to find the correct answers. Some husbands think it is their inviolable right to leave home and return when they wish and they consider any attempt on the part of the wife to discover why as an attack on this right. The result is more thick walls and barriers to normal human relations, forcing many wives to think twice before asking questions.
Some husbands think that without grinning, frowning and showing constant disapproval and displeasure when at home, they may risk losing their strong hold or having their personal power shaken. They think such behavior will make the wife think twice before asking questions.
Wives are thus kept in the dark, not knowing much about their husbands: Where they go, with who, who their friends are and what do they do when they meet outside? Even if the husband were kind enough to call home, he would never reveal the name of the place he was or give a telephone number. He may ask to be called on his mobile but never on a land telephone, lest someone know where he was.
It is this kind of behavior that makes wives suspicious all the time, even if the husband acts in good faith. Knowing where the husband is doesn’t mean his freedom has been taken away or his dignity compromised. Some men may argue it is their wives’ bossy behavior that makes them behave in this way. This may be partly true but why do husbands enjoy behaving like this?
