Who knew that urban cycling, which I find mostly exhilarating and joyous, but occasionally a grim struggle for a sliver of pavement, also could be elegant? This is how I saw the Dutch cyclists.

I ride to news assignments, sometimes in jacket and tie, feeling overdressed. I saw men riding to work in Amsterdam in suits, and they did not seem remotely uncomfortable.

And the women! Granted that riding a bike is like playing the cello, one of those things that makes men look dorky and women look hot, but women bikers in Amsterdam seem to cut no fashion corners. High heels and skirts are not uncommon, whether they are headed to the office or carting a boxful of kids to school on one of those cargo bikes with a big box up front.

Part of staying fashionable is that no one wears a helmet.

Not the riders; not the kids sitting up front or on the luggage rack. Either cycling is extraordinarily safe in Amsterdam or the lawyers are not in charge yet.

I came back to New York determined to apply the lessons of Amsterdam cycling to my own life. Some I could not. The helmet, for instance is non-negotiable. But could I ride elegantly in an aggressive city like New York? Mainly, it meant slowing down. This is harder than it sounds. New York moves faster than Amsterdam. Plus most bikes we ride here were built to race on the road, in the mountains or on a track.

Once I started slowing down, I became a more polite rider.

Not that I was rude before. I always at least paused for red lights. But I rolled through the crosswalk, waiting to be ready for an opening to cross. Now I find myself stopping short of the crosswalk, waiting for foot traffic to clear before I go on.

Of course, I cannot keep up this ride slow attitude all the time. My city bike is built for speed, even if I am not. I sometimes find myself succumbing to it. And I’m not interested in getting a Dutch bike. The Amsterdammers ride these single-speed or at most three-speed bikes that are both monstrously heavy, and in New York, at least, frightfully expensive, although I have started to look longingly at some of the lightweight three-speeds that in my long ago childhood we called English racers.

I have said for years that if you can stand to do it, bicycling is a good way to get around New York, but not a good way to see the city. It requires too much concentration on traffic and pavement conditions to do anything in the way of sightseeing. But I do find I can almost do it under this ride slow regime.

I am told bikers in Amsterdam ignore traffic lights and pay no mind to pedestrians, but in contrast to New York, they seemed nice to me, and in the days after my return, I tried to repress my New York Aggressive in favor of Amsterdam Nice. But sometimes it was too much, and I found myself less tolerant of rule-breaking. I encountered a pedestrian walking toward me in the bike lane the other day, instead of using the perfectly good sidewalk just a few feet away. I rode right at him. New York style, not Amsterdam style. Not close enough to hit him, but close enough to make him think I might. As I breezed my, I got my reward.

“Jerk!” I heard him mutter. Ordinarily, I don’t like being called names, but I was pleased that he noticed.

So Amsterdam elegance is still something I have to strive for.

Plus I’m still sweating like a pig.