Women in our society are used to having others decide things for them. No matter what social or academic position a woman occupies, in the eyes of Saudi society, she remains a weak creature who needs someone to think and act on her behalf in all matters, big and small.
A woman needs a guardian, no matter how young he is. Her 15-year-old brother could do the job. This is a tradition built on an incorrect perception and interpretation of what the concept of guardianship really stands for as defined in Shariah. It is natural that mistaken interpretations result in mistaken applications.
Now with the signs of reform on the horizon, we are beginning to see change. Women have been issued with identity cards. They responded with enthusiasm and rushed to get cards for fear the decision might be subject to a review after being opposed by some.
The opponents thought if the identity card was lost or stolen, people might see the picture of the card’s owner. Some husbands continue to stall and have resorted to every possible excuse not to accompany their wives to the places where the cards are issued. They fear if their women were allowed to have identity cards, this would give them a sense of identity and independence.
For the real signs of reform to be felt, women must be empowered to act as partners in the decision-making process, especially in matters relating to them. They know better than others what is best for them. It is not enough for women simply to have their voices heard. What is more important is for women to have a share in making decisions. The journey of a thousand miles, as we know, begins with a first step. Even if the present generation of wives and mothers cannot achieve their aspirations, their daughters can.
