Many work opportunities have opened up for women and they have succeeded in making their presence felt and are fulfilling their ambitions. Despite the difficulties they face on the road to success, their perseverance and patience have enabled them to overcome the obstacles, and they have not only succeeded but excelled. Working women who are married face even greater difficulties — the responsibilities of husband and family, responsibilities that, if not properly considered, may destroy the family and create marital problems.
As in so many situations, patience is the key to overcoming difficulties. If women feel that their work conflicts with their marital and family responsibilities then they must balance the hours at work with those at home. However, if their working hours still take up most of their time, then they should talk to their husbands in order to reach a solution that will reduce family problems. The discussion should preferably take place at a pleasant meal, away from home in a peaceful atmosphere.
If women are among those who cannot complete their work at the office and must continue it at home, then the home has become an extension of the office. This can drive a man away and cause marital breakdown. Women must therefore try their best not to bring work into the time that rightfully belongs to husband and family. However, if the woman has the same job as her husband and feels jealous of his success, then she should reduce her own level of competitiveness and make him feel that his success makes her as happy as it does him. In return she will find that he offers her encouragement to reduce her feelings of depression and jealousy.
Finally, if the woman were to be promoted to a level higher than her husband, she must point out to him that the stability of the family and the emotional support he has provided have enabled her to achieve success.
In the end, all we can say is: Leave the office at the office.
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In our society, the modern woman has lost much of her sweetness in talking and dealing with people. Is it because she works long hours away from home and has to carry such a heavy responsibility, or is it a result of her long struggle to achieve that elusive equality with man in a society ruled by men?
Women today sometimes lack charm and warmth. While this may strengthen a woman’s personality both at home and at work, it will also result in hurt feelings and regret in human relations, especially if the other party fights fire with fire. Further, the victory that either party in the relationship achieves, whether the man or the woman, by way of subservience and submission could result in the long run in demoralization and mental anguish.
Psychologists have struggled to set up a guide for women drained by office and home responsibilities that would help maintain warmth in their marital relations and not drive the relationship to the edge of battle or even divorce. They attempt to help her achieve what she wants by way of pleasant and charming conversation, such as praising the husband by concentrating on the positive aspects of his personality. This in turn encourages him to try and please her.
It is also preferable for the wife to say to her husband “You are wonderful.” Psychologists believe that it would be nice for her to say for example that she finds the intelligent way that he dealt with the rude man that was sitting next to her at dinner last night impressive.
Such words give him a chance to show his good nature. Such behavior has proven to be quite successful in psychiatric clinics. Women can achieve what they want if they ask for it in a pleasant and charming manner. Firm politeness can go a long way and is effective in a number of situations, with children and with the husband and any number of people.
The difficulties in life demand that we deal with others more pleasantly and not with irritability. Aggression only begets enmity, heart problems and high blood pressure — therefore women, please don’t scream.
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Scientists have yet to find an explanation for man’s vital need for sleep. What they have concluded is that great harm comes to people who do not get enough sleep. A sleep deprivation experiment was conducted on mice and after a few days without sleep, it was found that they had a bacterial blood infection because their immune systems had stopped the usual attacks on bacteria.
Scientists confirm that if a person does not get enough sleep, his immune system will be affected, thus leaving the person’s body vulnerable to illness. It is the scientists’ belief that sleep helps a person organize his memory and strengthen it since during sleep, the brain organizes and sorts papers and files — saving some and discarding others. Sleep deprivation keeps the brain from organizing itself and protecting its memory from disturbance or turmoil.
Experts advise that when wanting to sleep for a long time, a place must be properly prepared. The room should be dark, quiet and free from anything that reminds a person of daily activities. The walls should be painted a restful color and the curtains should be dark. Experts confirm that it is possible to turn the habit of light interrupted sleep into deep, calm and restful sleep. One of the things that help to get good deep sleep is not to do any work or any physical activity before bedtime but to be content with relaxing in a hot bath and then reading.
According to the Center for Sleep Research in the US, a normal person needs about seven hours of sleep a night.
