Girls always say with strong emphasis that in order to survive they need love more than food. One girl once told me that she had no problem with having cheese sandwiches every day and no fancy food at all if only her mother would respect her and provide her the love she needed.
Another girl stressed the fact that she doesn’t enjoy traveling with her family because they don’t seem to trust her. A third girl insists on locking herself in her room every time the family meets for lunch or dinner. She feels rejected because they don’t ever listen to what she has to say and her opinion is always ridiculed.
She told me that she deliberately violates all the regulations at school and brings prohibited things onto the premises despite her beliefs that whatever she’s doing is wrong. She is only reacting to her feelings that she’s unloved and not trusted.
At the same time, many teachers reveal that teaching girls during their intermediate and high school years is the worst experience a teacher can have. One teacher said that dealing with college girls was more like teaching small children.
It’s a two-sided complicated problem with young girls, families, and teachers. The girls believe that their need to be appreciated and respected at school or college and, before that, at home is a necessity. Teachers believe that students need to be taught moral and ethical principles and conduct.
The problem lies within each group’s expectations of the other that are not met. Teachers, unfortunately, would like to turn their students into silent submissive creatures.
This is impossible when the students want to be appreciated and loved.
It’s difficult for the teacher to understand why she has to love her students when she is supposed to teach them rather than bring them up and pamper them.
Some teachers even believe that students can only obey the rules if they are treated strictly which eventually harms the growth of the relationship between teacher and student.
I really wish that all teachers would reconsider and think about creating different relationships with their students and focus on each individual’s emotions.
Perhaps increasing activities within the curriculum by getting teachers and students involved with each other would help in strengthening the bond between them.
I don’t mean to hold teachers responsible for everything, but I would like them to be the stronger in initiating a good respectful relationship with students.
Girls at a critical age need a great deal of love and attention from everyone around them.
