The young woman starts her teenage years wishing and waiting for the knight in shining armor to come to rescue her. She lives daydreaming of family life and marriage. When a woman reaches her 20s, her family insists on marriage and then she continues to receive suitors.
Some women reject the idea of marriage, worried about freedom regardless of her awaited knight. Tension occurs and the woman becomes confused and shattered. However, the idea of spinsterhood never crosses her mind and she doesn’t even know what it means. She grows older with every year passing by without her noticing. Once she was in her 20s and suddenly she is in her 40s.
When a woman’s only concern is her freedom and not being limited by responsibilities, she will never know what true comfort, ambition, life and family interaction means. She won’t understand the value of marriage, especially if she gets married. She won’t realize the importance of living in her own kingdom and she might try to deny her feelings of emptiness and pain.
I am not going to address the issue of spinsterhood nor its reasons. All I want to focus on is that there are ignorant voices, twisted ideas and unfair descriptions from some narrow-minded people that have been poisoning our society. Some of these sick people label a 25-year-old woman a spinster.
What kind of irony and inaccuracy is this? A man in his 50s may call a beautiful ambitious young woman a spinster and reject her for that. On the other hand, this poor girl might face the deadly gossip of superficial married women who treat her as a stranger and also label her a spinster.
Her chances of finding a husband begin to evaporate. Society mocks and ridicules her for no reason and no crime. She finds herself under a great deal of psychological pressure and her mind becomes occupied with far-fetched ideas. The consequence is that she isolates herself in order not to suffer the pain of people’s torturing remarks.
Although I admit that our society can be cruel and insensitive adopting such an idea, yet I would like to send a message to every young woman. “Please don’t bury yourself in the grave of spinsterhood by refusing a suitable suitor. You should not get used to having so many conditions for marriage and you should compromise a bit. You should not have too many demands or be influenced by other people’s opinions when making your decisions. You must not feel that marriage is the enemy of freedom and independence. Marriage is a beautiful gift that God sent to all humans so that men and women can take care of each other’s needs in a harmonious environment. Stay away from being labeled a spinster and open your heart to life.”
