A friend of mine who contemplates leaving her husband told me, “I no longer have any feelings toward my husband. I am left without a soul.”
She believes she has reached a dead end in finding a solution to their marital woes and that separation is the only solution left.
She is tired of living with a man who is psychologically ill. Since her husband refuses to acknowledge he is ill in the first place, there is no treatment for him.
My friend is tired of fighting with him and engaging in worthless debates on issues concerning marriage and everyday life.
Her husband is not mature enough to understand the meaning of understanding and love. She has asked herself countless times: Is there a premarital psychology test that could be made obligatory?
“My children have also become psychologically ill. They are sick and tired of their father’s behavior. They try to avoid seeing him because of his unpredictability. He is abusive and sometimes intentionally tries to harm them,” she confided in me.
My friend told me it was a disaster when she asked her husband to seek the help of a psychiatrist. He became angry, as she had accused him of being insane.
He then told her that there are countless other women who could understand him if she could not.
She wonders how the families of prospective grooms seeking her daughters’ hands may react if they discover that their father is mentally ill.
Should he visit a psychiatrist to make sure he is mentally stable? What would they do if they discover he suffers from a multiple personality disorder or obsession? How can such a woman live a normal life when women in this society are totally dependent on their husbands?
What makes matters worse is that such men go on to take second, third and fourth wives, claiming that the first one does not understand them.
Can you believe that many families in Saudi Arabia believe that the best solution to their sons’ psychological problems is to find them wives?
In my opinion a premarital psychology test must be made mandatory.
