Some of us love guardians to the bone and some think they were created to take control of everything and give commands to everyone. Such a woman may insist on following the major and minor details of other people’s lives. She sometimes buttresses her opinions by claiming that she knows better.
She relies on the philosophy of chasing young men away from her and making young women hate to talk to her. In spite of this, she insists on showing off her superior knowledge in public by commenting on this girl’s abaya and that one’s veil.
The circle widens so that she interferes to judge the kind of clothes a woman is buying from a shop if the woman’s bad luck happens to bring her near the self-appointed guardian.
On the other hand, there are people who lack self-reliance and depend on such people to push them into certain directions. They seek help in everything, starting with choosing a field of study and ending with choosing a lifetime partner — just as long as some of the guardians say that he or she is the perfect one.
The desire to be a guardian seems to be in some people’s blood and it drives them to judge people everywhere.
We don’t expect human beings to carry out their duties to God, to themselves and their work without help from others, some of whom will surely be guardians.
Wherever you go, you find someone to practice the art of giving recommendations to you while praying, while dressing up and sometimes while eating or drinking. I sometimes feel that we don’t trust our educational system or social system although they are based on Islamic laws that emphasize honesty, integrity and discipline at work as well as love and forgiveness.
Guardians, unfortunately, keep a person from thinking, which contradicts the Islamic law that emphasizes thinking and respecting the human mind. We, humans, love to appoint ourselves unnecessary guardians as if other people wouldn’t be able to carry out their religious, professional and social duties unless someone were giving them orders and directions.
