Baby Talk: 6 ways to boost your confidence in the world of motherhood

After giving birth, you may have to make many big or small decisions that may cause you a sense of guilt or negligence toward your kid. (Shutterstock)
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Updated 13 March 2020

Baby Talk: 6 ways to boost your confidence in the world of motherhood

DUBAI: After marriage and pregnancy, you may feel stressed and start asking yourself how ready you are for this new stage, and whether or not you will be able to go through it and take the responsibility with all its burdens and pressure.

Don’t worry, this feeling is normal. But don’t allow yourself to be misled by it because it could be a slippery slope to lack of self-confidence and fear of the coming stage. What you should do is repeat to yourself that you are strong, that you can endure and face all the obstacles, that you are going to be a great wife and mother and that you will be up to it.

Here are some simple steps you can follow to boost your confidence:

  • Ignore all the unwanted opinions and voices around you

In any case, people, whether close or intruders, will always intervene in every detail of your life and the way you raise your kids, and unfortunately, there is no way to stop them. So don’t pay attention to what they say or do, keep it together and stay calm, and stick to the advice of an expert or someone close to you.


  • Don’t compare yourself to others

Rest assured that every family has its own lifestyle and habits that depend on its childhood and upbringing. So don’t compare yourself with other mothers and their ways of parenting. Just talk to those around you to benefit from their previous experiences in life instead of comparing. Only then will you find and know more about your abilities and be a great mother as well, one who has her own personality and her own way of raising her kids.

  • Contain your feeling of guilt toward your decisions

After giving birth, you may have to make many big or small decisions that may cause you a sense of guilt or negligence toward your kid, like “the decision to return to work.”.

This is a very natural feeling, but you have to provide the appropriate environment and conditions for your kid to cope with being away from you. Try to hold up until the first period of this stage is over, and you will find that things have stabilized. Take it easy on yourself, this feeling could negatively affect your confidence and may even mess up with your decision.


  • Take care of yourself as a new mother

After giving birth to your first baby, many of the luxuries and entertainment activities that you are used to having in your life will become a mere joke, like “taking a nap, reading or relaxing”. You won’t have the personal time you need for relaxing. The question is; what stops you from asking the help of someone close like “your mother – sisters – friends” or even getting a nanny for your kids if this was possible, to make your life easier and get some rest or sleep during the day, or have a meal, or even read one of your favorite books?!

So seek the help of your mother or your mother-in-law at the beginning of your journey so you can keep going on.

  • Organize your time and set the priorities of your chores

Doing your chores is more difficult than before, so set your priorities like meeting your husband’s needs – organizing your home – doing your job – in addition to being a good mother.

  • Enjoy your time with your baby

Being with your baby, playing and having fun are the most enjoyable moments that are unforgettable at all.

Share with us your experience with your first baby, the difficulties you faced and how you managed to overcome them.

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Missing your salon? How to care for your hair while you #StayHome

We speak to a hair expert on the dos and don’ts of at-home hair care. (File/Instagram)
Updated 30 March 2020

Missing your salon? How to care for your hair while you #StayHome

DUBAI: As salon-goers face the closure of spas, salons and barbershops, we speak to Haneen Odeh, founder of UAE’s Snob salon for her take on the dos and don’ts of at-home hair care.

Many men and women who rely on salon visits to keep their lengths healthy could be left wondering what to do between now and their next visit to a professional hair stylist. But just as important is what not to do (read: DIY trim job) to avoid ruining your hair and having to impose your own personal period of self-isolation once the pandemic is over due to a ruined haircut you tried to pull off in the bathroom mirror.

Don’t bleach your own hair
“For those who usually go to the salon to dye their lengths blonde, roots may be starting to show now. And while it might be tempting, I would strongly urge to not bleach your own roots. Lightening dark hair is a very complex multi-step process that requires years of experience and professional grade products only available at salons. Bleaching your hair incorrectly might result in burning and damaging your hair. Instead, opt for a root spray such as the L'Oreal Paris Magic Root Cover Up Concealer Spray. Otherwise, you can always conceal your dark roots with a headband or try wrapping your hair up with a scarf.” 

Do deep conditioning treatments
“Use this time to nourish your hair with a deep conditioning treatment. A lot of people simply apply it in the shower on wet hair for a few minutes and call it a day, but that way means that your lengths aren’t getting the full benefits of the product. Think of hair like a sponge, when it’s wet, it’s already full of water and cannot absorb anything more. So to make sure the product is fully absorbed into your locks, towel dry your hair after shampooing and then apply the treatment. Leave it on for 15-20 minutes and then rinse. You’ll see a huge difference.” May we suggest The Let It Go Circle hair mask from Davines, which is designed to boost hydration and revitalize dry and brittle strands?  

Don’t pick up the scissors
“When you’re bored, it might be tempting to pick up the scissors but, and I can’t stress this enough, don’t trim your own bangs or make any big changes to your hair cut on your own. It will inevitably go wrong and you will end up paying more to get it fixed in the long run. Try out some new hairstyles instead. There are plenty of tutorials on YouTube so experiment a little and get your hair professionally cut once it’s safe to do so.”

 Don’t over wash
“The more you wash your strands, the more you strip the scalp of its natural oils, and that in turn makes the scalp produce even more oil, which causes you to wash your hair more often — and the cycle goes on and on. Now is the perfect opportunity to give your lengths a break and cut down on the washing. Your hair might get oily, but once the adjustment period is over, you will notice that it will require less frequent washing.”

Do try scalp treatments
“Too often, we pay attention to the lengths of our hair and give our scalp no attention. But caring for your scalp improves the overall health of your tresses, stimulates hair growth and gets rid of dandruff due to product buildup. Scalp treatments range from serums to salt scrubs, so pick a product that suits your hair needs. Le Labo's basil-scented Scrub Shampoo uses black sea salt and menthol to clear away dirt and cool scalps down.”