The sentence that ends the celebrated movie “Gone With The Wind” has become famous and it is often quoted. The main female character, mythical Scarlett O’Hara, thinking of the problems she is necessarily going to face in the near future, says, “Tomorrow is another day” (i.e. “I’ll think about my problem tomorrow“).
What do you think these words actually mean? Do you consider them just the expression of an irresponsible person, someone who refuses to face life’s difficulties? Or, maybe, they indicate a great truth: It is useless to think — today — about tomorrow.
And when we say “think” we mean “worry.” When you give up something you would love to have or do in view of an uncertain, unclear future, you forget that you are living in the present, you forget that “now” is the only time you can live in, and experience.
It goes without saying that this doesn’t mean that you should spend all you have in order to satisfy all your wishes, without minding future needs. Neither do we mean that you can do anything you like without thinking of the consequences.
The important point is this: You can certainly “think” about what might happen tomorrow, but without “worrying.” Every time a nagging idea pesters you, it takes energy away from you. Thinking about it all the time is not useful, does neither change nor improve anything. The only result you get is losing precious time, instants of your life that will never come back.
Try to use them in the best possible way. They are a treasure that is granted to you at the condition that you do not waste it. If all people could be always aware of how irresponsible it is to “waste” time, they would probably change their ways somehow.
Once you pay attention to “the present” and start seriously pondering upon what you want to do with your life, you might wonder what is the relation between the way you behave toward the others and the way you behave toward yourself. Some believe that it is their duty to put themselves second, while others might be convinced that they come first and anybody else should occupy second or third place. Here a big word jumps up to everybody’s eyes: “Selfishness.” Well, we often use such word too quickly, usually giving it a negative connotation. I often discuss such point because it is extremely important in order to establish fair relationships with your fellow human beings.
If you want to try, ask yourself what your deepest desires are and how great an importance you usually give them. Why ask, you say? Because it is important for you to analyze your needs and aspirations before being good to others or even dedicating yourself to helping the world.
Your needs are what you must absolutely fulfill in order to survive in a decent, acceptable way. You have no doubt whatsoever about your physical necessities such as food and shelter.
But it is also necessary to find out any other thing you need on different levels, beside the material one. Do you feel loved, appreciated, respected? Do you believe that your spirit has already found satisfactory answers to your spiritual questions? Do you feel satisfied when you deal with other people?
The spiritual, the psychological and the emotional aspects of your personality have the greatest importance in the economy of your existence. You should therefore never forget that, in order to be capable of loving, appreciating and respecting any human being, you have to give yourself the same gifts.
If you neglect to take care of this, you won’t be capable of offering any positive feeling to another. In case you believe you could, you would deceive yourself, you would live an illusion.
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