One of the very common realizations in expats’ lives is centered on figuring out that the grass is not that green on the other side of the fence. Unfortunately, by the time we do figure it out, we have already burned our bridges, made our decision and can now regret it at leisure. Which is why unless special circumstances call for it, always leave the old company in a graceful manner. That way you leave a door open for the future in case you want to retrace your footsteps. And, so many of us know, this has occurred often enough. Two or three years down the line, that person makes a return because he uses his goodwill.
There is not much point in raising a ruckus and making rude noises when you are parting. You might think you are being heroic but you are actually only slamming the door on an option.
The worse thing you can do is badmouth the company in your farewell speech or slag off the system which is a cheap shot in the first place and while you may feel a momentary sense of bravado in the end no one really cares and they will only distance themselves from you because you are an embarrassment. Like go away, I don’t need to be seen with you.
All too often, that outburst marks you for life. If you have a beef then have the courage to bring it up when you are on the rolls. Don’t take advantage of your resignation or departure to spill the beans or threaten action. Professionals walk…no, truly, that is what they do. The day they are told its good-bye or they decide to put their papers in or whatever the reason, they simply clear their desks, walk tall and get the heck out of there with a smile and a handshake. No moaning, no groaning and no begging.
Learn that at the very start of your career. You will always be remembered as the person who left with style and courtesy and if the ring comes around again that memory will generate goodwill. But if you go out kicking and screaming and giving HR a hard time in case there is an exit interview, then that company is one that is not ever going to take you back again.
There is another facet that many of us who engage in this grandstanding that we often overlook. The saga of our departure becomes common knowledge and these days can even appear on some social network where prying into people’s lives is now accepted practice. Consequently, the new company now frowns and thinks OK if this person can do it to his old company, are we hiring trouble. Perhaps they will go through with it but somewhere in the corner of their minds a little red flag will keep waving.
As a result you don’t win on either side. So, if the ax falls, be kind to yourself.
