Baby talk: What is a birth plan and how to create yours

A birth plan allows you to write down all you want and expect during labor and get answers to all your questions. (Shutterstock)
Updated 14 October 2019

Baby talk: What is a birth plan and how to create yours

DUBAI: Before labor, it is usual for an expectant woman to consider the form and type of birth she will experience.  Details include the doctor who will oversee the birth, whether it will be a natural or caesarean section procedure, and considerations such as if the medical team will offer methods of birth such as birth pool, birth ball or any others. 

Lately the idea of writing a birth plan has become popular, allowing you to write down all you want and expect during labor and get answers to all your questions.

What is a birth plan?




A written birth plan helps new members of your medical team learn about your preferences when you are in active labor. (Shutterstock)

A birth plan is a record of what you would like to happen during labor and after the birth. You don’t have to create a birth plan, but it is a good option to have, since it will help your doctor understand your feelings and priorities. 

A written birth plan also helps new members of your medical team learn about your preferences when you are in active labor.

Some hospitals provide a birth plan worksheet or brochure that explains the hospital’s policies of childbirth, which lets you know what your options are.

What should you consider before start writing the birth plan?




It is advisable to read as much as you can about delivery. (Shutterstock)

It is advisable to read as much as you can about delivery, signs of labor, tools and types of labor to familiarize yourself with the options that may be available to you.

It can be helpful to join classes at a health centre, or a hospital near you.

Talk to mums who have already experienced birth. Talk to several mums because each one would experience different labor processes and don’t forget labor is as individual as each women is so it is a matter of taking information in general.

Talk to your spouse especially if he will be your birth partner. Make sure that he fully understands the type of labor of your choice.If you are having a caesarean section, you can still write a birth plan. You can also read more about this procedure and your care team will explain what to expect also.

What should you write in your plan?




There are also natural methods to help ease labor such as massage and warm baths. (Shutterstock) 

  • Birth Partner

Consider who you would like as your birth partner – it could be anyone you wish but will usually be your husband, close family member or a friend.  Consider anyone else you want to have with you in labor, and if you want this person to stay with you all the time or not.

  • Positions for labor

Mention which positions you would like to use during labor – you will probably not know until the event which feels best but being informed about the options will help you and you will have an idea of preferences you can put down as a guide.

  • Pain relief

Consider which if any type of pain relief you would prefer to use and in what order.  

There are also natural methods to help ease labor such as massage and warm baths or water births which you may wish to consider.  It will depend also on what your care team can offer at the place you will deliver.

Other popular aids to labor at some hospitals may include wall bars, birth balls, mats or beanbags.  Check with your place of delivery to find out what will be on offer to you so that you can think about what you might like.

Skin-to-skin contact:

Think about whether you would like your new born baby placed directly onto your belly at the moment of delivery or whether you would prefer your baby to be washed and wrapped or dressed before you hold him or her.

Feeding your baby:

Be clear about whether you want to breastfeed or bottle feed your newborn. 

Other specific requirements:

Mention your special requirements in your birth plan. Include any religious requirements, such as customs you’d like to be carried out when your baby is born. 

What Next?

Share your birth plan with your care team and discuss it with them.  Write down any considerations you discuss specific to your birth plan. 

It is important to remember that a Birth Plan is exactly that, it is a plan, an ideal of what you would like for your labor and delivery.  No birth is the same and sometimes it is important for the care team to deviate from the Birth Plan for the welfare of the mother and baby.  For example you may wish to have a natural birth but a complicated labor may necessitate some pain relief and perhaps a more invasive delivery such as a caesarean section.  However your care team will consider your birth plan as far as they are able and many times births go according to plan so it is very worthwhile to do a Birth Plan.

This article was first published on babyarabia.com.  


South Asian marriage websites under fire for color bias

Updated 12 July 2020

South Asian marriage websites under fire for color bias

DHAHRAN: An online backlash has forced the matrimonial website Shaadi.com to take down an ‘skin color’ filter which asked users to specify their skin color using descriptors such as fair, wheatish or dark. The filter on the popular site, which caters to the South Asian diaspora, was one of the parameters for matching prospective partners.

Meghan Nagpal, a Toronto-based graduate student, logged on to the website and was appalled to see the skin-color filter. “Why should I support such archaic view [in 2020]?” she told Arab News.

Nagpal cited further examples of implicit biases against skin color in the diaspora communities – women who are dark-skinned are never acknowledged as “beautiful” or how light-skinned South Asian women who are mistaken as Caucasian consider it a compliment.

“Such biases stem from a history of colonization and the mentality that ‘white is superior’,” she said.

When Nagpal emailed the website’s customer service team, she received the response that “this is what most parents require.” She shared her experience on a Facebook group, attracting the attention of Florida-based Roshni Patel and Dallas-based Hetal Lakhani. The former took to online activism by tweeting the company and the latter started an online petition.

Overnight, the petition garnered more 1,500 signatures and the site eventually removed the filter.

“Now is the time to re-evaluate what we consider beautiful. Colorism has significant consequences in our community, especially for women. People with darker skin experience greater prejudice, violence, bullying and social sanctions,” the petition reads. “The idea that fairer skin is ‘good’ and darker skin is ‘bad’ is completely irrational. Not only is it untrue, but it is an entirely socially constructed perception based in neo-colonialism and casteism, which has no place in the 21st century.”

Overnight, the petition garnered more 1,500 signatures and the site eventually removed the filter.

“When a user highlighted this, we were thankful and had the remnants removed immediately. We do not discriminate based on skin color and our member base is as diverse and pluralistic as the world,” a spokesperson said.

“If one company starts a movement like this, it can change minds and perceptions. This is a step in the right direction,” said Nagpal. Soon after, Shaadi.com’s competitor Jeevansathi.com also took down the skin filter from its website.

Colorism and bias in matrimony is only one issue; prejudices are deeply ingrained and widespread across society. Dr. Sarah Rasmi, a Dubai-based psychologist, highlights research and observations on how light skin is an advantage in society.

The website took down the skin filter following backlash.

“Dark skin tends to have lower socio-economic status and, in the US justice system, has been found to get harsher and more punitive sentences.

“These biases for fair as opposed to dark skin comes from colonial prejudices and the idea that historically, light skin has been associated with privilege, power and superiority,” she said.

However, in the wake of #BlackLivesMatter protests, change is underway.

Last month, Johnson & Johnson announced that it will be discontinuing its skin whitening creams in Asian and Middle Eastern markets, and earlier this month Hindustan Unilever Limited (Unilever’s Indian subsidiary) announced that it will remove the words ‘fair, white and light’ from its products and marketing. To promote an inclusive standard of beauty, it has also renamed its flagship Fair & Lovely product line to Glow & Lovely.

“Brands have to move away from these standards of beauty and be more inclusive so that people – regardless of their color, size, shape or gender – can find a role model that looks like them in the mass media,” said Dr. Rasmi.