Between freedom and responsibility ( NEW)

EVERYONE WHO IS not married hopes that the day will come when they have a stable life and a family of their own, while some married people wish they could turn back the clock, for the virtues of freedom and peace of mind. And there remains the eternal conflict, between freedom and constraint – meaning here taking responsibility. But being single does not necessarily mean liberty nor does marriage necessarily mean living with limitations. Freedom in its narrow concept means coming and going, sleeping and working just as you please, without any family responsibility.
Freedom and constraint are interrelated, and marital life is not all about a husband giving orders and prohibitions, and certainly it’s not about the wife merely implementing his decrees. Marriage is the interaction between them in carrying their roles and responsibilities; it is the nature of life. Any normal human being dreams of a stablity when they meet their life partner and wishes to live a long married life in harmony and intimacy within a happy home.
Despite all those aspirations and dreams, marriage is not without drawbacks, and in real life it is a different matter, because of the behaviors, nature and character of each party. For newlyweds, living under one roof is not easy due to differences in views, mentalities and habits, therefore it is most important to discuss each other’s duties and rights from the beginning. In any case, marriage cannot continue without some sacrifice and leaving room for forgiveness and tolerance.
Unfortunately, one of the most important reasons for the deterioration of the relationship between couples, is the act of escaping responsibility. Each party throws the burden of their life’s responsibilities on the other, there is no longer active cooperation between them, nor the willingness to sacrifice for each other. Although achieving marital happiness means that responsibility should rests with both individually and together as a couple with love and acceptance. By love I mean spiritual and emotional compatibility between spouses, followed by the spirit of tolerance that is only possible with the exchange of trust, respect and cooperation, appreciation and compassion, and without those foundations, the values of love and tolerance weaken.
From my point of view, there are flaws that exist in the link that paves the way for marriage according to the concepts of modern civilization to the meaning of freedom. Freedom in Islam means to fulfill the responsibility of the covenant of marriage.
Unfortunately in many cases, our society contributes to the burden heaped upon women; by teaching them what a wife’s responsibilities are from childhood. On the other hand, society does not instruct young men that their responsibilities should correspond to their wife’s responsibilities, and that each party is responsible for providing shelter and comfort to each other.